As I’ve become a full-time blogger, I feel the need to end 2010 with a substantial post for my readers to ponder into the new year. To move forward with hope, to strengthen the family, to open lines of communication with partners, and in these changing times to stop to evaluate what is working and not working in your lives.
I was born during the turning point, in the turbulent sixties. Although my mother claimed to be a feminist there was no significant change between her life style and that of her mother’s beyond, what seemed to be the benefits of the industrialization of food. Processed foods, canned goods, packaged boxed cakes, replaced the whole foods of her mother’s generation. The industrialization of food created short cuts to enable women freedom from the kitchen and eliminate the excuse of time needed at home for them to enter the workforce.
Coming of age in the nineteen eighties I had more choices than that of my mother: college, career, and/or family. Women were doing it all. I found it to be a hell of a juggling act. The men of my generation, are all for their woman easing the financial burden, but I haven’t met one yet that didn’t want a good wholesome meal on the table or who thought cleaning a house and child rearing to be a joint responsibility.
Sure, I will give credit where credit is due. The men of my generation are willing to “help” us with our responsibilities. I am inspired to write this post as I’ve read blogs from women much younger than me struggling to feel a sense of importance as SAHM or valued as an equal partner as they take on the roles of Superwoman.
I also feel a sense of responsibility to prepare my own children, young men and women coming of age. What are the values I want to pass along to them?
- Education for all so they have choices available to them. Yet, I am disgruntled as I sit here unemployed with my college degrees with student loan coming due and no decent jobs available. I hope the prospects for employment with take a turn for the better soon, real soon.
- Self-reliance and it being essential not living beyond your means, but living as if your poor because the work or the ability to work many not always be there. If I’ve learned anything in this downturned economy: it’s the survival of the wisest!
- Whole foods as it is the preservative, those long shelf life food items, and fast foods that are causing obesity, diabetes, heart disease, and cancer.
In order to raise healthy children, or have a successful relationship in a healthy family, the relationship of men and women, women and women, men and men, regardless of gender, the heads of household needs to be a non-gendered equal partnership, where each partner feels respected.
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Please share your comments of balancing success and stressors or thoughts on this post. My best to you all in the New Year!